We'll all agree that meeting and having relationships with members of the opposite race presents difficulties that same-race couples don't face. Because of this, I'm one who believes that we must sometimes 'bend' society's rules when it comes to satisfying our IR desires. For me, this means 'cheating' on my white wife of over 30 years after realizing through experience that my lifelong attraction to the black woman was real, undeniable, and a VERY strong and growing preference. While I don't like the 'cheating,' the alternative - living without a black woman in my life - is totally unacceptable.

What are your thoughts on this?

Will 

I agree with Treece,,,,its the most horrendous lie,,,,,

You are lying to yourself,,,and to your partner(s), your girlfriend included.

You can never have an honest relationship,,,,when you are cheating.

I have dated and married outside my race, yes I have dated married men, more for money than for love.

When I know a man isnt leaving his white wife ,,,,for my black azz,,,,it makes it business friendly ONLY 

When I came to the realization that black men wasnt doing it for me, I divorced my black husband rather then to cheat ,,,get caught,,and die. But I also did it because I want to be able to look myself and life in the face, and know I am guilty of nothing other then preferring to love a man of a different color.

The honesty is in your actions, not your sacrifice. Be true to yourself,,,,,,come clean and follow your heart.

I know its cheaper to keep her, and all your worldly possesions,,,,,but what about your soul,,,,,and the life/love you could openly have with a beautiuful black woman of your choosing.

I agree that you should tell her get a divorce and live your life comfortably with a clear conscious, you'll feel better.

I've been in a relationship with a very beautiful black woman just b4 my mariage was finalized and she cluldnt forgive me, I lost the only woman ive everloved in 40 yrs.  So do the right thing b4 you have nothing.

It is most unfortunate for your wife but honesty is the best policy. I sincerely believe that at least for myself being in 2 interracial marriages and now possibly like they say the third is the charm. First and foremost you have not been honest with your self. Now it might be the region you grew up in, but were not able to choose your attraction to black women because of pure pressure from the town you were from or how your family raised you. I can concur a bit but at 21 when I married my first fine ebony women, my family said they would not speak to me ever again. LOL Only lasted 6 months. WE then go divorced some 5 years later but still friends today. After that marriage I believe my family grew culturally with no color boundaries because they never again questioned who I might marry next and color never came up. For the record and to the ladies I spent 10 years in the Navy and the Military unless very very strong in marriage the Commitment in the Military will tear a marriage apart. The second a beautiful ebony women we were married 13 years. We grew apart . Honestly I never cheated. hopefully We just went in different directions. Friends today. One thing that really bothers me is that I served in combat in Desert Storm for our US principles and freedoms we all share. A democracy and freeing a country from ethnic cleansing. When I was injured Blood was drawn for my wound thankfully there were many volunteers that saved my life that day. Most were not white. My point is while serving why still today almost feeling ashamed that we have a hang up or concerned about what others might think when it is skin deep. My friend we all bleed red just with different blood types be strong, tell the truth, and free yourself from past bondage to be with a women that suits your preference. Turn a page and start a new chapter in your life with out guilt be and be real to your ebony women.

Big Sexy signing off.